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20 Tips of How to be the Best Boyfriend

Written By dele ogunleye charles on Tuesday 16 September 2014 | 07:34:00

1. Always know your Girl
When you’re talking with her or chatting with her online, ask some inquisitive questions which reveals other things about her which you didn’t know about, but don’t ask a series of long questions, it’ll become boring to her. Have good conversations with her from time to time, about her past things, childhood experiences, future plans, desires, dreams and her future ambitions. Remember, you're getting to know her everyday and in many different ways, not just through questions and conversations. Study her; know her interests, likes, dislikes, hobbies, fantasies and favorites. Knowing your girl well, will help you in knowing the perfect gifts to give her, surprises, her interests and the things she likes. It’ll also save you some trouble by avoiding unnecessary misunderstandings which might have occurred otherwise. You will know your girl more than anyone else, when the two of your are connected intellectually that deep, it strengthens the bond of your relationship to the extent you become inseparable....you'd be more different than her past boyfriends or other male friends of hers because what you share with her is something completely unique, which she wont get anywhere else.2. Be Sweet and Caring
Always remember to do sweet things to her rather than only saying them. Action speaks louder than words, show the amount of care and concern you have for her by doing nice things to her like thoughtful presents instead of only bland gifts, whether that will be books or anything that you know is related to her field or profession which will help her in the long run. Simplify her life that way and in many other different ways...if something is bothering her then be her rock and solve it for her, and if something is disturbing her or she's depressed over something then she mentions this to you, sympathize with her and offer her a landing ear and a shoulder to cry on instead of just ignoring her.

Sometimes people just want you to listen instead of just proposing immediate solution to their problems. Sometimes when she’s going to sleep, give her something sweet to sleep with when you’re close; like a forehead kiss, poem, short song, short story with a happy ending , a joke that suits her sense of humor or anything that'll make her dream you that night.....just be creative, you don't necessarily have to follow this routine. In the morning remember to call her and ask her how is she, then ask her how she slept. Know the status of her health the day after. Be the first one to do these things, be thoughtful and considerate towards her. This shows that you care about her other aspects as well, but not only about her body. Do something special for her once in a while that'll make her remember you when you're not with her.
WARNING: Don't call her every time or everyday, put limitation to this, as it can backfire the attraction she has for you....you don't want to suffocate her with your clingy or needy attitude, give her the time to miss you as well most of the time.

3. Be Surprising/Spontaneous
Prepare something very nice and big for the two of you once in a while, and then surprise her eventually. Whether it’ll be preparing a lunch or dinner, taking her somewhere exotic or fun; just plan it then surprise her. Plan something good and special for your soul mate, do something that will make her feel special to you and the world around you; do things which will make her realize that she’s lucky to have you. E.g. take her out in a nice and elegant restaurant for dinner, quiet one with special qualities. Then after a nice dinner, give her a dessert of excellent poem which you've composed yourself based on your own feelings. Or suddenly announce an impromptu scavenger hunting or hiking trip to her, then carry on to make that happen. Things should be planned well before hand, and carried out well in an organised way perfectly. These surprises and secret activities doesn't have to involve expensive material things, just fun things which you know that both of you will enjoy together and make her very happy in the process. Be unpredictable but in a good way...this creates an anticipation in her, which keeps her wondering whats next, you'll never bore her this way and your relationship will never be dull but always vibrant.


Don't ever be predictable, or drive your relationship on a routine; trust me, you'll thank me later...

4. Challenge her most of the time and be fascinating yourself

A lot of girls love a challenge as we men do, sometime being too straightforward and serious in a relationship can be a big source of boredom and complacency. When you have found out something which she really likes or if you already know it, tease her. Be playfully not annoying. Have a wide sense of humor, don’t ever take things too serious, and even your mistakes; learn from them and take time to laugh it off and continue enjoying things to the fullest. Also, there will be few things which she really, really likes. Whether it’s a certain food, the way you touch her, the words which she likes you to say, or something which she wants you to do for her. Make her really want it before you tease her, this can make the entire relationship more interesting every time you do it. Make her earn your compliments or appreciations in an old fashioned way and be honest, don’t just hand them out easily or it may appear that you’re desperate, insecure or insincere at times. Sometimes don't bee too easy or available at demand, challenge her in a creative and fun way but not rude at any cost....see when you're doing these stuffs, it's what keeps the relationship stimulating and alive.

5. Help her with her chores in most of the time

If you leave near her or with her, be a gentleman and go help her out with her house chores. Chores are the things which are not fun to do, but we do them anyway because we have to. If you show up sometimes in helping her chores time to time, it’ll prove it that you care about her, and concerned about her; and she’ll love you for it. Go help her run some errands, or grocery shopping; then make it fun not boring as it usually would have been when she’s alone. When working together with her, take also the time to talk about your relationship, make fun of the activity you’re doing, or joke around to make the atmosphere lively which will make a difference in your absence. She’ll know how fun it is to be with you one day when you come to live together. Plus it’ll earn you credits to her parents and friends. A handy boyfriend is every girl's pride, they're not plenty in quantity, in fact they're rare species...:-)
Warning: Don’t waste too much time with her or it’ll make her be uncomfortable, but also remember to give her space. The time she needs to herself to do her own things and recharge herself.

6. Be her hero in every aspect of her life

Besides helping her with her chores around the house as mentioned above. Be the kind of man who looks out for her, who is there for her, every time she needs you and the kind of man who is there to save her in the storm of life. When she’s sick, go to her place/hospital, take care of her, be beside her sickbed to cheer her up and give her a hope that she’ll be just fine and everything will be alright since you’re there. When somebody or something is bothering her, stand up for her, stand on the front line with confidence and fight for her. Give her the feeling of safety, comfort, confidence and assurance, when she’s with you. Be also some kind of role model in terms of your achievements and status, someone she looks up to when dealing with life's obstacles of her ambitions and goals, be there to inspire her, support her in everything that she's interested in and motivate her to pursue her dreams...give her advice and help her out even if she didn't ask for it, sometimes girls want you to notice things and help her out without the need of her having to say them out. All this is how a relationship grows and develops, this sort of partnership interaction is what builds invincible bond between couples.

Warning: don’t be control freak or manipulative, by calling her every time and wanting to know where she is. Or be excessively insecure when she’s out of your range. Remember that she also needs some time alone and she can also take care of herself.

7. Be Understanding and Patience with your Girl

If your girl isn’t ready for any intimate activities, understand her and be patient with her. A lot is happening in a girl’s mind when trying to choose a life-long partner; she has to think things throughout again before accepting the fact that you’ll be her life-long partner. Forcing her to forward things or do the things which she isn't ready to do momentarily, will just worsen things. Trust me; you have a big control on how a girls feels about you, if you know women enough and how to push the right buttons. If you didn't know this before, and as a result you did something to upset her, be the one to apologize, and mean it. Large amount of Sympathy has to flow from you towards her.
Then let nature handle the rest, let her come to you when she’s ready, and she will. Well depend on what you're doing to her or how you're treating her, everything that you do has an impact to increase or reduce your chances with her. Respect her decisions and she will respect yours too.
More than that, she will love you for your patience and consideration. Love isn’t really only about making love to the girl of your dreams, but more importantly; you've got to really care about her and be sensitive to her feelings. If you have a moody girlfriend, instead of being angry with her mood swings just be the man she thinks you are and be the one to calm her down.....strong men dont become angry frequently or be impulsive, they're the one to settle things down....in any situation not just relationship with your girlfriend, learn to be a man who isn't annoyed easily by people, someone who's very calm in any situation. Girls respond to how you treat them, whatever you want from them, they'll give you if you approach them in the right manner, not just sex but everything else.
As a man you're ought to know that and be proactive in your approach with them, patiently and effortlessly. If she isn't into you then it's obviously that you haven't created an atmosphere which support her to be into you, not her fault dude, it's yours..!!

8. Be in Control of things

You have to take control over your life and your relationship, be the driver of it. Be Proactive. Drive your life instead if it driving you. Women and Girls love a guy who has confidence in just about everything he does, the way he handles things and get things done accordingly. Make your life a well organised one by putting proper programs in your activities and routines. Have definite goals, and make a plan of reaching them, include them in your daily programs of activities. Accomplish your goals no matter how small they are because they'll give you so much power to handle big tasks in a demanding situations and reach bigger goals. Exude confidence in everything that you do, when you’re together with her or not; Confidence has to be abundant in you and authentic. Take control of your life and everything that surrounds you. When she’s mad, upset, sad or unhappy with something, know what to do in order to return her mood. When something bad happens, know what to do. Try many things until you get it right. Trials and errors are great teachers. Don’t only be her boyfriend, but also be her guardian and caregiver. When you're in control you're exuding an energy that is so attractive to women and girls of all types, something which she'll turn you into her own personal addiction. Girls of all ages loves a man who's in control of things, it provides ultimate sense of security.

9. Be Romantic

Buy flowers to woo her and surprise her the next time you have agreed to meet up with her, together with her favorite food. Find an excellent spot like a beach, so the two of you can sit and talk. Then when you’re there, sweet talk her, remind her qualities that drawn you to her in the first place, restate her beauty, be charming and genuine. When the both of you are alone walking, hold her, she wants you to; put your hand around her waist when the time is right. Greet her with a hug while you whisper something nice in her ear, like “you’re so beautiful, and I’m very lucky to have you in my life…” Remember to compliment her every day, feed her sweet words that suits her and come out of sincerity. That the best gift you can give her. Think outside of the box to charm the girl of your dreams...buy her a big teddy bear to hug at night, name engraved mugs, or name engraved gold necklaces...or you could do handmade gifts which are the best to make her believe that she's in your mind.....make her a great food recipe or better yet arrange so the two of you can make it together, with candle light and soft music....nothing like it.
WARNING: Don't do this very often, as it will become accustomed to her and it'll never have the intended impact over time....do if often but don't make it as a part of your everyday life. Be creative and find million of ways to be romantic so she doesn't get used to the same routine every time...routine is dangerous in a relationship!

10. Win the Hearts of her loved ones

Don't let life and attention revolve only around her, she'll get bored with that no matter how understanding or passionate your girlfriend is. Make sure to win the bond of affection to the people who are very close to her, whether its her parents, siblings, relatives or friends. Win them all, the more the better. Why? Two reasons. One is, you’ll have some people who have a say in her life to back you up when you screw things up sometimes.
They will be the one to convince her that whatever you did wasn't intentional and that you still love her. Reason number two, you get more trust in her, since she will know that you’re interested not only with her, but with her company as well. This gives you plenty of credits man..!!.....plus talking to her friends, siblings or parents gives you a different perspective of your girlfriend since you'll know her from different eyes now, you will know how she was like when she was a child, you will know the real her in depth and that my friend is very important in your arsenal of your relationship....it's a cheat sheet of your relationship, you'll dig a lot of information about her which will always work on you favor....you'll surprise her with somethings which only her and her mother knows, then she'll be wondering how you found that one out....or her closest friend will give you a secret weapon to win her heart more and more....knowing her from her social circle is very important my friend, so do that..!!

11. Know how to handle her Passionately

If you want her to feel the same way you feel towards her, then you've got to express your love passionately not only through words, but also action. ACTION...ACTION.Learn to kiss a girl passionately, in a way that it will bring sparks to her body. See videojug.com videos; How to kiss someone passionately or how to be a good boyfriend. As her man, you must master her body as way a pianist masters his instrument. Know what turns her on and what turn her off, make it as your mission to satisfy her in every way possible, not only kissing or making love, but also other romantic things she enjoys as well or non-romantic things. There also some things which she might like you to do for her, experiment with her until you find a list of those things then add them to you arsenal. Well, there are also non sexual or romantic things also, so it's your job to find them.....DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE MOST SEXUAL ORGAN IN A WOMANS BODY??.....I know what you thought, that's not it you pervert...!!....it's her BRAIN.......Find out through experiment, her interest, hobbies, desires or fun activities then do those with her sometimes, in the way that she wants them to be done...!!

12. Be Excellently Fashionable and Grooming

Enough about her, now we're coming back to you.....Somebody popular once said that, “If you want to be loved, be lovable”. There’s nothing which makes a man attractive than his ability to chose the right clothes and appearance to promote his looks. Looks in a man is largely influenced by his dressing style and grooming habits, thus he must be fashionable. Learn to wear excellent clothes which go with your body type and skin tone, and always wear body-fit clothes. Watch movie stars in the movie and other celebrities on how to get a fashion that suits you from head to toe, it doesn't have to be the same, it can be close to what they’re wearing; the point is to get as much ideas as possible until you have a stock of them. Its an inspiration that you're looking for, do not copycat anyone.
Remember that also, its quality that counts not quantity get few expensive if you can’t afford much and good quality clothes; unlike bulky cheap ones with low standard. Some men have a false belief that looks doesn't matter when it comes to love, that's small thinking and being naive....it's because she wasted a lot amount of money and time in beauty products and right clothing, and she wasted countless hours at night moisturizing herself and taking good care of herself; that's why you're attracted to her right now....unlike lazy you. So be like her and make yourself lovable, make things easier for her to be attracted to you. Be fashionable and really consider quality.
A girl has a remarkable natural ability to scrutinize things objectively, so she can tell if your groom is classic and expensive or if it is dead-drop cheap, from head to toe. She’ll know if you bought your suit from Charlie down across the street or if it’s a Gucci. And also, the most important thing is to make yourself smell good, to turn her on. Be hygienic all the time, and then spray yourself with designer fragrances. That's grooming. Shave unnecessarily body hairs and get a $60 - $80 haircut, one that'll make you stand out from the crowd.....hey if you're romantic, sweet and all but you cant dress well it's still a foul, because it shows that you don't have time to take car of yourself, and if that's the case how can she be sure that you'll be able to take good care of her in the future if you can't just take care on yourself?!....
These small things have big impact in creating attraction or diminish it, when you're well groomed and fashionable person, she wont ever let you go plus she'll have a serious competition to deal with.....great stuff..;-)...Find inspirations online, browse to get ideas of your fashion look book or reference center, always work hard to improve your wardrobe, constantly work hard in developing yourself everyday. Find grooming and dressing tips from online and offline man's magazines...let everything inspire you man!!

13. Elevate your Status and Position

This one is also for you...
This is one of the most important ones, whatever profession you’re in, or whatever career you’re specializing in your college or university. Have the habit of doing your best in your achievements to master your profession to the ultimatperfomance, do the best to get a good prestige and status. Then find a way to earn income out of your profession, talent or ideas so you can develop yourself in all aspects of your life. Living an ideal independent life, getting the good things you want, doing developmental projects like starting own business to earn more income and making plans for short-range and long-range future. This way, you attract nice people, events and circumstances since your life is interesting and in great state. And you only get there through your own drive. Push yourself to reach those great heights, realize that everything you do to build your life, you’re doing it for the two of you, not only yourself; that is when motivation comes. When you realize that if you do something reckless, you would have not only failed yourself, but also her.
The key here is to develop yourself financially, intellectually, socially and career; so you can have a good life, productive future; this creates the best atmosphere to promote the love which you both share because you would've created a good environment for the future of you both, and when she sees that she’ll acknowledge it very much.
If you're still living with your parents and she knows that, be bold and courageous to make plans of moving out to be independent, socially, financially and personally...moving out alone is a big step, then from there things will develop themselves automatically...start a business OR venture something which you've been passionate about for long time, then work on from there to start develop yourself financially from there.
GROW. EXPAND. DEVELOP. ADVANCE .EVOLVE...Get you butt of the couch....take calculated risks in going for bigger things which you know will make you grow and advance in all ways so that you can have something which you'll be proud of, and she'll be proud of you.....be a man she thinks you are.....when you're ambitious like this in reaching specific planned goals in your life, then finally accomplishing them, this will give you power like no other....your self-esteem will be sky-rocket high which in turn give you the power to deal with anything in life let alone relationship, even other people or difficult situations....and she'll love you more for that trust me..!!

14. Do things to increase your Intelligence and develop yourself

Read books (novels and inspirational), learn new languages; add knowledge to your mental stock, advance yourself. Any girl wants a very intelligent man in her life, one who knows many things, one who knows how to run things, and one who knows how to get things done, and one who knows how to get what he wants.
Thus to guide her, take care of her and help her plan for future life. Increase your ability to solve problems in different cases through doing mentally challenging tasks like puzzles, quizzes, and add more knowledge to your mental database of different subjects. Run intellectual conversation with her from time to time. In your own time, work in developing yourself, like reading books and other educational materials.
Learn new languages, to make new cuisines, how to fix things and how to deal with difficult situations.This will give you new stuffs to teach her and show her, fascinating things to do together and interesting stories or things to tell her. Be a well rounded man, one that she'll never find anywhere else. Love to learn new things everyday, new ways of doing things or going about them. This is how you become irreplaceable man.
JUST REMEMBER.....THIS IS FOR YOU MOSTLY, YOU ARE DOING THIS FOR YOU...!!

15. Have a Unique Personality

In your character, inject some rare elements (attitude, behaviors, interests and activities) which will make you stand out of ten thousand of other men. Be generous by helping people in charity work and let the other charming side of you flow out. Be noble and charming to everybody, show the world you have excellent moral character and principles, show them how you have the power and delight to attract people easily and entertain them. Have a different series of activities and interests, like Cooking, Photography, Arts or Music and do them passionately in your time. Things which you enjoy doing in your alone time, some special things which she will discover about you over time and maybe participate too.
Tackle new languages, engage in taking short-developmental courses or classes to add up your knowledge; so when you're with people you have many interesting topics to talk or knowledge to share with them. Turn everything you do with her and yourself into fun and adventure, make boring things fun things to do. Be positive always, even if things don’t always go in your way, that way you’ll be the most interesting person to be around with not only with her but everyone else. Don't get too caught up only with her and her things, find plenty of time to evolve yourself too....trust me, it's for a greater good..!!

16. Give her the time and space which she needs

Sometimes you should give your girl time to miss you. whether she’s with her friends (male or female ones) or when she doing her things alone, give her the space and time which she demands, instead of being clingy boyfriend by calling her constantly asking where she is and what she’s doing. This will make you appear insecure and desperate to a girl which is not cool at all, it turns girls off completely.
Because she’ll be asking herself a lot of questions like: if you’re possessive as a bachelor, how will you be like when you marry her?! ; If you can’t trust her now, will you trust her later?! Can’t you control your emotions and be a little confident like a matured man?!......As i have emphasized before that, Girls love a guy who is confident and is sure of himself enough to trust her completely, and carry on with other things. Giving her time and space will make your girl love you more for being a patient guy and understanding enough to consider her wants. If you treat her right, by the time when she’s done with her things, she’ll come back to you, and love you a whole lot more; guaranteed.
Always be unpredictable in a good way, don’t let her predict you always, let her wonder that; what kind of surprise you have in mind next time. This gives you plenty of time to develop yourself in doing productive things for you and your future, plan things and time to recharge after everything.....or you could also waste this time to do manly activities like watching games or being committed to your hobbies and passions....
This is where your interests and hobbies come along, that's why it's very important to have these things so when she's not available, you still have things which you enjoy doing to kill your time and have fun.......don't let her be the ultimate source of your happiness, that is dangerous, have a world of your own too, which you will share with her sometimes. Plus don't let her interfere with your hobbies or activities at the last moment when she's missed her fun somewhere and wants to compensate that time to destroy your fun, put limitations and healthy boundaries to such things.

17. Work on Developing your Body, Health and always stay fit.

Workout to build a great body that you'll admire yourself, well masculine and toned. Aside being attractive to the opposite sex, a well masculine body has many advantages in a man. The biggest advantage is that, clothes fit you well to enhance your good qualities.
Reason number two is that a good body gives you confidence to other people as you will feel good about yourself and project that through your actions.
Thirdly is that, muscles acts as a protection shields of internal organs and bones in the time of accidents.
Fourthly is the obvious one, which is that you get great physical energy.
Fifth is of course you get a great body language when you have full confidence of your body. Body language is another fact to consider after creating good body and before creating it, it's very important in communication to the opposite sex.Your body should be in a coordinated way with your expressions and actions, what you say should also be expressed with your body. Having a positive body language is always inviting to anyone, mostly girls who are sensitive.
Girls love a person who always never let a smile fade in his face, one who can demonstrate his feeling through facial expressions also. So learn to have a positive body language. Keep your chin up, shoulders back, stop stooping and walk in a relaxed and confident manner; like you know where you’re going and why. Whenever you’re sitting with someone (and mostly her) always remember to never let a negative body language empower you, always display pleasing qualities that your body has to offer. Your expressions should be in a coordinated manner with her, when she’s happy be happy with her; when she’s sad be sad with her. Express sympathy, because it is the key core of charm.

Create 2 different programs of working out: Cardiovascular and Weightlifting, in order to balance the upper body and lower one, your breathing and overall stamina. So it's 30 minutes jogging everyday assisted by certain body part weightlifting program. Each body part has it's own exercise when it comes to weightlifting, there isn't a silver bullet to solve everything.
Also lifting heavy weights is good for your Testosterone outtake which is very important hormone for a man, it gives strength and all important masculine traits that a man should have, like domination, aggression and assertiveness. Nutrition should also be considered in this aspect, healthy diet is good for the body in improving natural attractiveness and beauty. Many men overlook these things in going for more complex and impossible-to-achieve remedies like steroids; going for short-cuts. Unfortunately those short-cuts have bad consequences.
Food is very important factor that needs serious consideration..........But until then it's important to maintain a proper balanced diet of Fruits, Vegetables and Plenty of water.....normally an average of 8 glasses in a single day.
I will cover this nutrition topic and workout program later on, these two are big ones that needs to broken down into smaller fragments so it can penetrate properly into your brain...!

18. Invest in yourself

We as human being need to grow and change, it's what distinguishes us from the living and non ling things. So as a man you should also take the time to dedicate in investing and developing yourself, your career and future life in general. Love grows in the absence of pressure, don’t make her the center of all your attention, some girls don’t like that. Otherwise it will make you appear desperate and insecure freak, it’ll be like you don’t have a life of your own to attend to. On the other hand Find your fun, something which gives you pleasure, whether it’s socializing or some kind of activities, do them. Keep yourself busy and give her some space to miss you, so she’ll be able to love you more. However, if she needs you in between, be there for her.

19. Be kind and Generous to others as well

Don’t just shower her with your presents and jewelries like you’re buying her love, because an attractive girl can get anything she wants. So be different and take the time to be someone who she will rarely get. Be generous to people you meet or interact with, help those who are less fortunate than you by offering money, any donations or help. Whether it’s charity, disabled people or blood donations; give something which will make a difference to another person as well. She’ll be very proud to have you in her life because she now knows your level of commitment. This has also tremendous invisible effects aside her feeling proud of you.

Also it shows that you're matured enough to handle her and take good care of her, it makes you appear strong man whom her friends will envy her for...;-).....

20. Plan to do some Activities together

Plan and arrange the activities which you both would like to do sometimes. Adventure trips, picnics or other fun things are great romantic getaways from this bitter reality, towards your fantasy world of just you two. Boredom is the biggest relationship killer, so beat it to make things exciting in your relationship every time; do things which will enable both of you to enjoy. Plan with her, exactly what she wants to do with you. There are even indoor activities which will make the two of you have fun, like playing against each other on video games, board games, or it can be reading one book and discussing about it later on. Things like these will spice up your relationship; it’ll be like you've met each other the day before.
Whatever you plan doesn't have to be grand and expensive if you're not loaded well, but it has to be memorable and special....do whatever it takes to make yourself addictive towards her, make yourself stand out at any cost from plenty of men out there who are inexperienced and uneducated than you are now, after reading this article....!!

GO OUT THERE AND BLOW THE COMPETITION AWAY DUDE....MAKE IT HAPPEN..!!
There you go, 20 weapons of strengthening your relationship and making you a distinctive boyfriend or Husband, use them wisely; good luck GENTLEMEN in blowing the competition away......you wont need luck anymore, so go to her and make it happen...!!
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